Dear Sherry
My boyfriend and I recently threw a party. As the party was winding down at 2am, I headed for bed while my boyfriend saw the last few people to the door. I heard whispering, went to investigate and found my boyfriend in the kitchen with his so-called female 'friend', kissing and fondling her and saying how much he missed her. Once I made my presence known, she ran out and he tried to play the whole thing down. The next day, he apologised, and blamed it on the alcohol. But I cannot get the picture of the two of them together out of my head. I'm having trouble trusting him. Should he be trusted?
bkn_3

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Dear bkn_3
The fact that you even have to ask if you can trust your boyfriend after what he was cooking up in the kitchen makes me fear you can't be let out alone without a keeper.

Your boyfriend violated the sanctity of your home, not just by cuddling and kissing another woman, but by cooing into her ear how much he missed her. And Mr Sensitivity wants you simply to get over it. He accepts no responsibility for his despicable actions because he was under the influence of alcohol? Well, this man's not just a stinking drunk, he's stinking, full stop. I know it's painful to accept that he's not the person you thought he was, but without trust a relationship is nothing, and he can never really be trusted again.

I say cut your losses and get out now. Otherwise, in a few months, a similar scenario will undoubtedly be repeated and you'll be writing me again asking the same plaintive question. Don't put this columnist in the position of having to say, 'I told you so'. Instead, do us both a favour and end things now.

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